Pre- Marriage Counseling at Sukhayu Hospital Nashik
A pre-marital counselling session is not something you go for if you think your relationship is in trouble. A session or multiple sessions with the counselor will help you understand each other better, ask questions you might not have thought of to ask, make you discuss topics that you otherwise take for granted.
Here are some things that you will discuss during the pre-marital counselling sessions.
Marriage expectations
You may have some ideas and notions on what a marriage will be – or should be. You will have a basic blueprint in mind of how your marriage to your fiancé will look like. But what sometimes we don’t realise that he will also have some ideas and beliefs of his own. Men might not be too vocal about their idea of marriage, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have any expectations. Discussing these before your marriage will help both come to a happy middle with respect to marriage expectations.
Money matters
How do you plan to contribute to the home expenses? Do you plan for him to give 50% and you put in the remaining 50%? Or do you look at it to be different as per what each of you is earning? Or are you going to divide the different expenses and take care of the respective ones? You need to understand what each expects and find out the best possible way to move forward. Another monetary area that you need to speak about is your expenditure and saving styles. Are you looking to invest together? Or do you plan to continue investing individually post-marriage too? Speak to one another about such questions. As you will be living together, you need to ensure your ways don’t put undue stress on the other and find a way that suits both of you well.
Sex and intimacy
Not all have had proper sex education in India with the taboo about speaking about this “unspoken-in-polite-company” topic. So, it could be possible that you or he have not really spoken about this properly with anyone or each other. So this needs to be discussed with each other. There are chances that there have been peer discussions regarding this or you (or he) have read about it in some books or magazines, but that doesn’t really mean you understand what all it entails. So discussing it with each other and informing each other about your needs and desires will help you have a happy sex life post marriage too.
Lack of knowledge,scanty information of anatomy, suppression of sexual feeling, wrong notions, fear of the act are the most common problems facing a relationship.In pre marriage councelling, using models and textbooks illustration of male and female reproductive system is explained.
After a married couple may not want pregnancy immediately , the proper councelling of using contraception method is explained in this councelling .
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Infectious disease and Vaccination
There are two vaccines which should be taken by the couple before marriage
1.Hepatitis B vaccine
Two/Three doses should be taken by couple before planning for pregnancy
The schedule of hepatitis B is 0, 1-2, 5-6 month
2. Rubella vaccine
One dose of rubella Vaccine is helpful to avoid abortions,heart diseases, cataract, deafness in pregnancy.
Also read :Vaginal Discharge
Hereditary Diseases
Sometimes families have a history of inherited diseases. It is important that both partners are screened for this hereditary diseases.Diseases like Thalassemia,Hemophilia,Glaucoma, Sickle cell anemia are some hereditary diseases.
Plans for children
It is just not whether the other person wants children or not, but how many, the time frame for each, the parenting styles, any extended family involvement, and such topics will also need to be discussed. For many, the topic of children can be a deal-breaker and finding this out after marriage will create a big problem obviously. So discussing this before is always beneficial.
Communication and conflict resolution
Communication, as you would know, is essential to any relationship. In a marriage – especially a new one –, it becomes all the more crucial. You need to understand each other’s communication ways and find a common way where you both have a direct and open communication channel. Being scared of the other’s reaction and not saying what you feel can create problems in a relationship, as can speaking anything without realising how it is affecting the other. Healthy communication and expressing one's feelings is essential and you need to find out just how to do that. You also need to discuss how you will communicate during and after a conflict between the two of you. Arguments and disagreements are going to happen, but how you talk and act during and after them can affect your relationship. So you need to ensure both of you understand each other, and talk about how you plan to deal with conflicts before they happen.
In-person counselling
This is where you meet the counsellor personally. You meet him or her individually and together to discuss the above topics and more topics that might arise from the discussion.
Compatibility tests and questionnaires
These are simple ways of finding out what each of you thinks about different topics, and what are the common beliefs you share and where there are differences. These are normally taken alongside pre-marital counselling – whether in-person or online. There isn’t a pass or fail in these tests, but they just form the basic guide for the discussions ahead.
What does a pre-counselling session entail?
Here are some ways that the counsellor might use… You’re asked for background information about yourself and your family. You might have to visit counsellor individually before heading into a couple session. You’ll have to state the problems you foresee if any. You might be asked to fill up a compatibility test or questionnaire.
Each counsellor will have a unique way of getting the information, but the basics remain the same. Some techniques used during the session during pre-marital counselling include:
Open and honest communication is encouraged and the counsellor knows how to get you to talk about any deep and hidden issues that can create trouble during a marriage if not discussed in time.
Each of you would be independently asked to write down your expectations, hopes, and aspirations for married life. With these, the pre-marriage counsellor can help you with any existing issues as well as identify potential issues that could arise, and ways to resolve them, in the future.
For more detail visit to Sukhayu Hospital Nashik,Maharashtra OR Contact 7420004242
